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Islamic general > Culture Versus Islam
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Posted: Jan.09.2007 @ 8:43 pm | Lasted edited: Jan.09.2007 @ 2:50 pm
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Islam is a religion. But, to many ignorants, Islam is a culture. It is a practice handed down by their fathers, and their father's father before that. It is something they do out of habit rather than out of the education they have received. That is why the converts or the "Born Again Muslims", if I may be permitted to use this phrase, make better Muslims.

Converts learn the religion from scratch and throw away their old beliefs on becoming Muslims. The Born Again Muslims re-learn the religion and are able to differentiate between Islam and the ignorants AAdat, and are brave enough to reject what is un Islamic though they run the risk of being branded fanatics.

The majority of Muslims confuse between what is religion and what is culture. They take both as one and the same and, on many an occasion, practice religion as if it was part of the muslim culture, or adopt some of the old cultures thinking they are doing an Islamic thing.

Sometimes even the culture over-rides religion and they rush out to implement a cultural practice as if it would be UN Islamic in not doing so. Culture takes precedence over everything else and, if they miss one or two obligations in Islam, like praying or fasting, it does not matter as long as that so called "adat" has been safely implemented.

For example, they would spend hours dressing up a bride for a wedding ceremony. Never mind that thebride has to miss her Maghrib prayers because of this. Allowing her to do her Maghrib prayers would mean the preparations would be interrupted or delayed, not to mention her hair, which had been carefully set at great expense of time and money, would get all messed up.

The house would need to be cleaned and everything would need to be nicely set up in preparation for Eid preparation. This would mean they would have to miss the last day of fasting or else there would be no energy left for the great task ahead of them. Impressing the guests who would be visiting for Eid preparationis more important that fasting.

In other words, culture is so important that they would sacrifice their religion as long as the culture is protected. They would not sacrifice for Islam.

How did this come about? Islam is very specific and explicit. Islam is the ultimate and everything else comes later. How could, therefore, culture stand between the Muslim and his religion? Even more important, how could the Muslim get so confused that he could not differentiate between religion and culture and allow himself to practice Islam his way; religion as a culture.

In fact, you can still see aspects of Hindu culture in our so-called "Islamic" practices. Take the lighting of lanterns on the last seven nights before the end of Ramadan in some muslims. This is modeled after the Hindu religious celebration of Deepavali, the festival of the lights.

What about the wedding ceremony mentioned earlier? Very much a Hindu practice where the bride and bridegroom sit on a stage so the world can see them see and to receive the blessings of the crowd who sprinkle scented water and flowers on them.

Many acts the Indians do in the name of religion is not Islamic at all.

In fact, some are even contrary to religious beliefs; bida'ah or shirik; and compromise the principles of the Islamic faith. These practices are not only sinful but makes a mockery of the One God fundamental because that forbidden practice acknowledges the existence of other forces equally powerful.

For instance, take the practice of consulting mulla (for ganda taweez, magic). Most muslim believe in the powers of the mulla (for ganda taweez, magic). and many actually go to see them for assistance.

mulla (for ganda taweez, magic) are nothing but witch doctors. In the Western terminology "witches" are servants of the devil as they draw upon the powers of the forces of evil. The muslims swear by the power of the mulla (for ganda taweez, magic). rather than do their Hajat prayer to get their wishes fulfilled. mulla (for ganda taweez, magic) use the Koran, spirits of dead people, bones of humans, and so on, to "pray" for help.

It must be remembered that though the mulla (for ganda taweez, magic) uses the Koran it is not used for reciting the verses but as talismans or "tangkals". The Koran is not taken in its spirit or substance but in its physical form, as an object of magic.

Sometimes the verses are recited but only for "fixing things". The "client" may want the mulla (for ganda taweez, magic) to help them get a job promotion, a contract they have tendered for, the love of a woman or man, and other worldly desires. In extreme cases the mulla (for ganda taweez, magic) calls upon the "powers" of the Koran to harm an enemy or as a prevention, called "sekatan", from an enemy who is suspected of using another mulla (for ganda taweez, magic) to give this client bad luck or make him sick.

Islam, or the powers of Islam, is treated as something magical or mystical, and who better to call upon the magic of the Koran or the verses of the Koran than the black magic man, the mulla (for ganda taweez, magic). Of course, every mulla (for ganda taweez, magic) would claim he is doing things the Islamic way and that there is no shirik in what he is doing. This gives the Malay the feeling of security, that he is not offending God in his actions or creating an associate to God.

Many religious people, those well learned in Islam dare not speak out.

They realise that this is a very sensitive area to venture into. In fact, some of these religious people even contribute to the belief by themselves offering mystical services. The muslim believe that these religious people have a closeness to God due their "ulama" status and how better to reach God than through these people.

One reason why the muslims are so gullible may be because Islam was an "imported" religion.Todays' s muslims choose to be Muslims only when it suits them and revert to their old cultures and traditions freely.

Consider the concept of water and oil; they do not mix. Oil stays on top and does not contaminate the water below it. What we do not realize is, oil chokes life in the water by blocking the flow of oxygen.

In the same way, the belief in other forces other than Allah "kills" the fundamentals of Islam. Without this fundamental belief, their Islam is just as "dead" as the life in the water below the oil. It is time the religious authorities and the ulamas speak out. Re-education is required.

You are either a muslims(ignorants or a Muslim and, if to be a proper or good Muslim means we have to be less of a muslims (ignorants), than let it be so.


Eid Al-Ghadeer Al-Mubarak Season > Eid Al-Ghadeer
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Posted: Jan.09.2007 @ 4:36 pm | Lasted edited: Jan.09.2007 @ 10:42 am

Eid Al-Ghadeer Al-Mubarak Season

[Praise be to Allah, who blessed us to be among those who cling and hold to the "Wilayaat" (love, friendship and authority) of Ameer Al Momineen Imam Ali Ibn Abi Talib (AS) and all the Imams (AS), peace be on them all.]

We congratulate our twelfth imam, Imam Muhammed Al-Mahdi (AS), our righteous ulama, and to the whole world on the greatest Eid in Islam which is Eid Al-Ghadeer Al-Mubarak, the day which Islam was completed and perfected after Prophet Muhammed (PBUH) declared in front of 90,000-120,000 people, that Imam Ali Ibn Abi Talib (AS) is the Vicegerent, Caliph, Imam, and Leader After him (PBUH).

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1 "Al-Ghadir" and its Relevance to Islamic Unity 2 Eid Al-Ghadeer
3 Dua For Eid Al-Ghadeer 4 The Declaration of Ghadeer Khum
5 Essay on Ghadeer Khum 6 Ghadir feast in light of Ahadith
7 Ghadeer Khumm and the Orient lists 8 Eidol Ghadir and a Pious Leadership
9 Declaration at Ghadeer Khumm 10 Day of Wilayah
11 Day of Fraternization 12

Background of Feast of Ghadir

13 Ghadir Khum (Detailed Article) 14 Ghadir and the Prophet's Successor
15 Eid Al-Ghadeer Al-Mubarak 16 Eid Al-Ghadeer
17 Ghadeer: The Day of Salvation of Mankind 18 Ghadir Tradition: The Expressive Evidence for Guardianship
19 Ghadir, the Greatest Eid of All Religions 20

Ghadir Khumm in the Qur'an, Hadith, History

21 Eid Al-Ghadeer 22 THE FESTIVAL OF GHADEER

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1 Imam Ali (a.s.) and the Quran. 2 Hazrat Ali (Pbuh)'s Biography
3 Hazrat Ali's Famous Epistle To Malik Ashtar, Governor of Egypt 4 Imam Ali is he our role?
5 Imam Ali (a.s.) in the eyes of Non-Muslims 6 The Birth of Imam Ali, Ameer - al - Mu'mineen (a.s.)
7 Imam Ali, The Commander of The Faithful 8 Who Will Enter Paradise
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11 The Stranger 12 The Brother of Imam Ali (AS)
13 Ali Ibn Abi Talib (AS) 14 His Last Will and Testament
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16 A Biographical Profile of Imam Ali [a.s]
17 Appointment of Imam Ali (A.S.): Explicit or Implicit? 18 Glimpses of the Nahj al-Balaghah - Part 1
19 Glimpses of the Nahj al-Balaghah - Part 2 20 Glimpses of the Nahj al-Balaghah - Part 5
21 Glimpses of the Nahj al-Balaghah - Part 3 22 Glimpses of the Nahj al-Balaghah - Part 4
23 Glimpses of the Nahj al-Balaghah - Part 5 24 Glimpses of the Nahj al-Balaghah - Part 6
25 A Unique Leader in the History of Mankind 26 Ali: The Voice of Human Justice
27 The Last Moments and the Last Wills to the Sons … 28 IMAM ‘ALI BIN ABI TALIB (A.S.) - THE FIRST BELIEVER OF ISLAM
29 THE LAST WILL OF IMAM ‘ALI BIN ABI TALIB (A.S.) 30 THE HOLY QURAN – PART 15 - IMAM ‘ALI BIN ABI TALIB (A.S.) & THE HOLY QURAN-(SECTION 1)
31 THE HOLY QURAN – PART 16 - IMAM ‘ALI BIN ABI TALIB (A.S.) & THE HOLY QURAN (SECTION 2) 32 The Holy Quran – Part 17 - IMAM ‘ALI BIN ABI TALIB (A.S.) & THE HOLY QURAN (SECTION 3)
33 THE HOLY QURAN – PART 18 - IMAM ‘ALI BIN ABI TALIB (A.S.) & THE HOLY QURAN (SECTION 4) 34 THE HOLY QURAN – PART 19 - IMAM ‘ALI BIN ABI TALIB (A.S.) & THE HOLY QURAN (SECTION 5)
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Shia New's > Supreme Leader Calls for Muslim Unity
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Posted: Jan.09.2007 @ 9:47 am

Supreme Leader Calls for Muslim Unity

TEHRAN (Fars News Agency)- Supreme Leader of the Islamic Revolution Ayatollah Seyed Ali Khamenei called on the world Muslim population to avoid differences and discord in a bid to enhance solidarity.



Addressing thousands of people who had come from the city of Qom to felicitate the Supreme Leader on the auspicious occasion of Eid al-Ghadir here on Monday, Ayatollah Khamenei stressed that the leaders, elites and politicians of the Islamic states should enhance their efforts to reinforce solidarity among the Muslim nations and avoid getting involved in sectarian conflicts.

He said that Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) introduced Imam Ali (AS) as a unique personality and as his successor and that in this way, the prophet drew a road map for the future of the Muslim society.

The leader, meantime, underlined that Muslims should not let enemies sow seeds of discord among Muslim Shiites and Sunnites through misusing Eid al-Ghadir, and continued, "Rather, it indicates the fact that leaders of the Islamic nations should honor leadership as a principle for the administration of the affairs of the entire Muslim nations."

He further warned that enemies of Islam are striving to turn the issue of Ghadir into a pretext for religious conflicts among Muslim Shiites and Sunnites and called on the leaders of the Islamic states to help to the neutralization of the conspiracies hatched by the US and UK aimed at escalating sectarian sentiments between Shiite and Sunni Muslims.

Elsewhere, Ayatollah Khamenei referred to the failed policies of the US in Iraq, Afghanistan, Lebanon and Palestine, and reminding that the US politicians themselves have admitted these defeats, he said, "Following its failure in Iraq, Afghanistan, Lebanon and Palestine, the US has resorted to stirring up sectarian violence in the Islamic states to reach its ominous goals."

Also reminding the United States' intense propaganda against Iran since the onset of the Islamic Revolution, he reminded Muslim leaders that Iran's growing power serves the interests of the entire nations in the Persian Gulf region and in the world of Islam.

The leader advised the Arab leaders not to give concessions to the United States, and reminded, "The US administration is not trustworthy because it is obedient to Israel and supports Israeli crimes against Muslims in Palestine."

He also warned the Arab leaders against forming alliance with the US and UK in the face of Iran, saying that the said two states are fervent followers of Israeli's policies in the campaign against Muslims.

Referring to the nuclear issue, the Supreme Leader of the Islamic Revolution stressed that Iran will not withdraw from its stances, and underlined, "The Iranian nation will not give up even an iota of its nuclear rights and the (Islamic Republic) officials do not reserve the right to ignore such a magnificent achievement."

"As a homegrown technology, our nuclear science is a source of pride not only for the Iranian nation but for the entire world of Islam," he stated.





New Muslim Read Here ! > BEING A NEW MUSLIM IN A FAMILY OF NON-MUSLIMS
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Posted: Jan.09.2007 @ 9:39 am | Lasted edited: Jan.09.2007 @ 3:43 am
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BEING A NEW MUSLIM IN A FAMILY OF NON-MUSLIMS



First of all, if you are in the position of being a new muslim in a family of non-muslims, then many congratulations to you, and alhumdalillah that you have been guided to the right path. May Allah(swt) reward you for your efforts in getting this far, and may Allah (swt) shower many blessings on you. May you be guided through this transition in your life and may your faith grow stronger and stronger with each day. May you become an excellent muslim and through your example may others be inspired, and may your family find a contentment in your decision through your new found happiness in your life, inshaAllah.

TELLING YOUR FAMILY YOU HAVE CONVERTED

For some muslim converts telling their family of their decision is no problem at all. Some families of converts are very happy at the choice to become a muslim, and it is welcomed. Unfortunately though for other converts this is a difficult process, with various obstacles to face.

This page is designed to help new converts through this experience, or perhaps even 'old' converts who have kept their new religion hidden for some time. There is no magical answer as all families are different and will inevitably react in various ways. However, if we cannot provide exact answers, we can certainly go a long way to helping converts feel more comfortable in this situation, and by sharing with each other we will all grow stronger and more able to face problems inshaAllah.

Before we get into the possible family problems and the suggested solutions we should first emphasize that although some converts have some problems, there are many others who do not. This page is designed to help those who are met with obstacles, so may, unavoidably, come across as negative. So please remember that some families of converts are very happy that their relative has converted. Some reasons for the happy reactions are as follows:

    * they are happy that the relative concerned has found God.
    * they are happy that the relative concerned will be leading a moral life, especially in this day and age.
    * the family have seen the happiness that the relative concerned has found and this in turn makes them happy.
    * they are pleased that the relative concerned now has discipline and stability in their life.
    * families knowledgable about Islam, although they may not convert themselves, realise the truth about Islam (as opposed to the propaganda).

Please remember that the anticipation of telling your family about your new religion is often worse than the reality. We find that we re-run the moment over and over in our minds, imagining the worst possible outcome. Then, when we come to actually having the discussion, things go much better than expected.
So, if your worries are more self created, rather than based on 'real problems' them the advice would be to just get it over and done with. I totally understand that this is easier said than done, but having spent a long time pondering the event myself, I know that I would have been better just getting on with it. The bottom line is that it is a conversation that you will have to have with your family, or at least your parents, one day, so why not get the ball rolling now and start to deal with any issues that arise.

For those who have bigger concerns with telling their families, we have tried to identify the common concerns, and where we can offer some help. This may also be useful to those who did go ahead and tell their family, but are now experiencing problems. Please do not look at the possible problems below and get yourselves worried, we have not identified a possible problem without suggesting a possible solution.

It is very unlikely that you would face more than one or two of these problems, if any at all, and anyway it is better to be prepared just in case.

Possible Concerns to Deal With

There are many ways of overcoming all these concerns.


Let us start by reminding ourselves what the Quran says (2.286):

Allah (swt) does not impose upon any soul a duty but to the extent of it's ability; for it is (the benefit of) what it has earned, and upon it (the evil of) what it has wrought: Our Lord! do not punish us if we forget or make a mistake; Our Lord! do not lay on us a burden as Thou didst lay on those before us; Our Lord! do not impose upon us that which we have not the strength to bear; and pardon us and grant us protection and have mercy on us, Thou art our Patron, so help us against the unbelieving people.

If we keep this in mind we will be fine.

Alhumdalillah, as converts, Allah (swt) immediately allows us this opportunity to spread Islam within our family and inshaAllah earn some good deeds.

Your family are religious, practising another faith. How will they react when they hear you have chosen a different path for yourself?http://www.convertstoislam.com/Coping/solution1.html#solution1

Your family are not at all religious and cannot understand why you would want to become religious.http://www.convertstoislam.com/Coping/solution2.html#solution2

Your family have been taken in by the negative propaganda and as a result they perceive Islam to be violent. Reactions such as 'You are associating with terrorists'. http://www.convertstoislam.com/Coping/solution3.html#solution3

Your family may have the wrong ideas about how Islam treats women.http://www.convertstoislam.com/Coping/solution4.html#solution4

Your family think that religion causes war (of course it is people that do this!)http://www.convertstoislam.com/Coping/solution5.html#solution5

Your family suggest that you just take the best bits out of all the religions. http://www.convertstoislam.com/Coping/solution6.html#solution6

Your family are concerned about 'what will other people think?http://www.convertstoislam.com/Coping/solution7.html#solution7

Your parents in particular may feel that they have 'lost' you, and that you are no longer the same child that they brought up. Perhaps they feel that you have betrayed them by selecting a different life for yourselfhttp://www.convertstoislam.com/Coping/solution8.html#solution8

Your family may think that you have become a Muslim because of someone else, and not because you really believe it.http://www.convertstoislam.com/Coping/solution9.html#solution9

Now inshaAllah you feel more prepared, so how do you go about telling your family?

Who to Tell?


When I use the word 'family' this is referring to whoever you decide. For myself, I was concerned with telling my parents and my brother about my change of religion. Telling other family members was something that to me was not as urgent, but would be necessary in time. I felt that I wanted to gain the understanding and hopefully the support of my parents prior to tackling anyone else. For others though, they may have other family members that they would want to talk to first. Perhaps an aunt who you feel is open minded and receptive to new ideas, who in fact, may help you talk with your parents. Or perhaps a brother or sister would be easier to tell initially before talking to your parents. This is just something to consider.

What Method to use to tell your family?

The actual method of telling your family really comes down to the relationship that you have with them. Have you always had a relationship that allows the free and easy discussion of any topic? Or is your relationship good, but discussions of topics that might rock the boat are rare? Or perhaps you feel you have a not so good relationship with them.

Face to Face Conversation

I would advise the best method is to just sit down and talk to them in an environment that will allow them to express their views freely, ie talk to them privately, somewhere where they and you feel comfortable. This will allow for a conversaton to take place, giving them the opportunity to ask questions and you the opportunity to get across the main points that you feel are important. I know you may feel that you want some of your muslim friends with you, but this may stifle your family's reaction, they may not feel they can ask questions about the religion in front of a muslim audience for example.
A face to face conversation also gives you the opportunity to observe their real reactions and body language, something that will be lost with a telephone call or letter.


A Letter

If you feel that you are unable to talk to your family face to face then writing a letter is an option to consider. A letter has the advantage of allowing you time to write and re-write until you are happy that you have expressed yourself in the best possible way. You have the opportunity to make sure that you include everything that you want and that the best possible wording is used.

The disadvantage is clear, you can niether see nor hear their initial reactions. The reaction that you receive will be a delayed reaction, ie when you next see your family, or when they have read and digested your letter they will phone you. A lot can be learned from witnessing their initial reaction, although some may prefer to only get a reaction once the family have had some time to contemplate what you have told them.

You might want to consider telling your family face to face, but afterwards leave them with a letter that you had previously prepared. This would ensure any points that you were not able to convey during the conversation, were not missed altogether.


A Phone Call

This method does not really apply too well to individuals who still live with their family. Going out of the house to then phone back to the house to tell them, only then to return to the house later, does not seem the best option Smileyface
For those living apart from their family, this could be considered. However, if the family live relatively close by then I would suggest telling them face to face, rather than down the phone, and only consider the phone in the cases where family live at a distance and visits are few and far between.
Using the phone to tell family still involves having to talk to them, so if possible, going the extra step and telling them face to face would be better. The phone obviously stops you seeing their reaction, it is not always easy to get a true understanding of someone's real feelings down the phone. I feel that a phonecall to talk to your family about such a matter could also trivialise the issue, which is obviously highly important in your life.
However, if this is the method that you feel suits you best, then of course do it this way.

When it comes to telling other family members then a phone call or a letter could be the best option and the easiest in some cases.

Clearly this is an individual choice and there is no right or wrong. You must go with the option that you feel is best for you. Remember in many cases the reaction from family is very good, and in all cases, whatever the reaction, you will feel a sense of relief from simply telling them.


What to Say?

When you are telling your family take the time to explain to them that you have made a decision in your life, explain that it is an informed decision that you have made for yourself. You can explain some of your reasons for selecting Islam. If appropriate you can thank them for bringing you up in such a way that you have an interest in religion in the first place. You can address any possible concerns that you think they may have. You can reassure them that you are still the same person, and that you will be trying to lead a life of high morals and manners, a life that you hope will make them proud. You might decide to explain a little about how your life will change from now on.
I would suggest not going overboard with your words. Remember the main objective here is to let them know of your decision and to add some words that will help them to accept your decision and inshaAllah be happy for you. It is not the objective to explain all the Islamic teachings and convert them with your words, this can come with time inshaAllah.

Whichever method you choose to tell your family this has to be an individual choice of words. You will know the best way to approach the subject with your parents. At the very least you are prepared, you have considered what some of their concerns might be, and you have thought of some possible solutions to these concerns. For example, if they are worried that women are treated badly in Islam, then you can explain the reality to them. So as far as you are able, you are ready to deal with any misgivings they might have.

Don't try and 'over prepare'. Don't spend too much time thinking 'what if they say this..', 'what if they say that..'. Don't get too caught up in this beforehand, you will find that once you start talking to them your words will flow naturally with the help of Allah (swt).

Remember, there is nothing wrong in not knowing the answer to a question. If your family ask you a question and you do not know the answer, simply aknowledge the question and let them know that you are not totally sure and that you would like to find out for certain and then get back to them. This could actually be an ideal opportunity to enable you to bring up the topic of religion at a future date.


How to act during the discussion with your family.

As a muslim you will of course be trying to conduct yourself in accordance with Islam. You will be aware of the manners that a muslim must try to show etc, you will be aware of the qualities of patience and understanding. Most importantly you will be aware of the rights of your parents and the way in which you should treat them.

Remember that you should not raise your voice to your parents. Just show them love and kindness throughout the discussion. If there are times when a debate starts, as is often the case when discussing religion, remember to speak calmly and softly, and remember to keep smiling Smileyface

Despite your sincerity, you may still feel a little nervous at the start. Your nerves may give an incorrect impression to your family, so try to remain calm and composed, and inshaAllah the strength of your faith will see you through your tough times.


Giving your family books

You may want to have a couple of books to hand so that if appropriate you can offer them to your family at the end of your discussion. InshaAllah they will be interested to increase their understanding of the path you have chosen.
Obviously, if you fear that they will disrespect the books, then ensure that you do not give them any that contain the Quran.


We Need Your Help to Help Others

Please, if you are experiencing family problems that are not discussed on this page, or the advice given here does not go far enough to solve your problem, and you feel that you need some extra help then

please email us, we want to help you if we can.

Please, if you feel that you want to talk to another convert and gain strength from one another then please email us, we will put you in touch with other converts, or we would be very happy to become email friends with you ourselves.

If you have already talked to your family and you have a success story to share then please let us know how you got on. We would also appreciate receiving your helpful hints for others.

If you have come through the experience of telling your family and would like to help others then may Allah (swt) reward you for your kindness.


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Posted: Jan.09.2007 @ 9:33 am

 

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Life and My Beliefs
 
     

There are many aspects that differentiate humans from one another.  Beauty, outward appearance, wealth, health, nationality, race, native language, and knowledge are all examples of characteristics that differentiate us from one another. 

These differences may even allow us to lose or excessively develop our self-esteem, even though our characteristics may be out of our control. Despite these differences, what we have in common is that we are all humans who seek one purpose: to find success in our lives. To reach success and happiness in life is the common goal of all of us.

We each strive hard to become satisfied with our lives. Reaching perfection and completion is the unquestionable desire of mankind.1 However; this leads us to the question: What can be defined as success and how can one be considered successful? Certainly we each may have a different translation for the word success.

 But why should there be so many different translations for success?  The concept of success can be defined through our personal view towards life. It is this view that can show us our path to success.


We are probably tired of constantly hearing the phrases: “the view towards life”, “belief”, and “the telescope in which we can see the world”. 

From the first days of our lives, in those days that we were merely a child our mother, father, and those around us would define our beliefs. We would have the same belief as our families and friends.

It was this environment that would determine our Christian view, Muslim view, materialistic view, or other views. For some, even when years pass and the person begins to know him/herself better, they would still follow their previous beliefs without any research.

Others feel no necessity for having faith in any belief, and therefore leave all beliefs. They spend their valuable time, which is in fact very important to them, on works that can earn them a comfortable and luxurious life. 

A third group however cannot feel indifferent about belief and would therefore spend part of their time and life on researching about faith and belief so they can choose the faith best for them. In fact this is where the real question lies:

When a person can spend his life investigating and discovering new secrets of technology to improve his and other peoples’ comfort and satisfaction in life, why then should he spend time on researching about faith and belief?  What benefit does our belief hold for us? 

Other than dry debates on theories and certain limitations in life, does it have any other reality?

Truly out of the thousands of problems I face daily, which problem can my belief solve? 

What will I lose if I do not research about my belief and faith? ....


These are the questions we freely and logically seek to discuss on.

1-   My True Identity

Let us begin with this question: In the days, weeks, months, and years that pass how frequently have we thought about ourselves in relation the path that we are striving for.

In other words, during the years we have passed in life, how many times have we thought about our true identity? 

At times when man thinks about himself on the works he has done throughout his life, or on an accomplishment he has just reached after working very hard to reach it, he may find himself running in a circle, constantly repeating only one cycle. 

We too may be following his example and may have fell within the trap of a spinner, “we work, we eat, and we play so we can live; so the purpose of our daily lives is to work, eat, and enjoy.

 Sometimes when we review and see the scenery of our lives, it is like the same movie being played over and over for every single day of our lives.

Sometimes we even get tired and constantly ask ourselves, does life have any other result other than exhaustion and repeat?

Why do we constantly circulate one path?

Why do our days and nights look old? 

Really, who am I?  What do I do?  Where am I headed to?


1-1- Unique existence

If we pay close attention to the different species around us, we will realize that their life has a predefined pattern.

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