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Six Thinking Hats by Edward De Bono
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Published: Mar.18.2008 @ 9:48 am
I arrived late in school this morning. While in the bus, I was contemplating I could conduct a follow-up interview to complete the Student’s Individual Inventory Form. But to my dismay, in addition to my being late, I forgot that today is still an exam day and the students will only be in school in the morning. So there is really no chance for me to catch them in their sleeves and ask them how much their parents earn annually or who their single parents are dating at the moment.

And like the previous frustrating events, the only thing that can bring me back from my topsy-turvy disposition is to read a book. Lucky for me, I left my current Coelho read under my pillow, so I dashed through the school library and forced Amy (the school librarian and my bestfriend) to lend me a book even when there are strict orders that this week should be “RETURNING OF BORROWED BOOKS. NO BORROWING OF BOOKS FOR INVENTORY AND CLEARANCE.” both for students and school personnel. Anyway, I promised her to return the book this afternoon (even without her permission).

I browsed through the NEW ARRIVALS SECTION of the library and saw this intriguing title: SIX THINKING HATS by EDWARD DE BONO. It says in the subtitle: THE INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLER that has changed the way the world’s most successful business leaders think.

My initial reaction was, “Well I’m not into business so why care to read this book.”

But after browsing through all the books, nothing caught my bookworm’s intuition of the best possible read for my present emotional condition. So I went back to the HATS stuff and picked it out of its shelf. Amy was shouting over my shoulders when she saw me leaving the Borrower’s Card on top of her desk despite her plea that I am not allowed to borrow a book.

“Oh well,” I told myself, “I’d rather run away with this book than spend the rest of my day grumbling over a messed-up schedule.”

Upon arrival in my office, the intercom was ringing like hell. Assumed that I might not answer the phone, Amy turned on the speaker phone and was yelling at me to return the book. I told her what I had in mind while running away with the book and as expected, my good friend lent me the HATS stuff but she asked me to swear to return the book before I go home this afternoon. And so I did with all my heart.

Flip-flapping through the book, just reading the summary for each color symbol, I finished the HATS stuff in 3o minutes. These are what I can share to you based from the book:

The Six Thinking Hats method capitalizes that THINKING is the ultimate human resource. But most of us, even the most successful people are left unsatisfied with their most important skill. No matter what we have achieved, it seems we can never get enough of the world. We want to be better.

And let me just quote:

Usually, the only people who are very satisfied with their thinking skill are those poor thinkers who believe that the purpose of thinking is to prove yourself right – to your own satisfaction.

The main difficulty of thinking is confusion .We try to do too much at once. Emotions, information, logic, hope and creativity all crowd in on us. It is like juggling with too many balls.

Argh! Got me on that!

Now what do the SIX HATS of different colors symbolize:

WHITE HAT:

Think of paper. Think of a computer printout. The white hat is about information. When the white hat is in use, everyone focuses directly and exclusively on information. It stands for facts and figures. It is for truth and philosophers.

RED HAT:

Think of fire. Think of warmth. Think of feelings. Using the red hat gives you an opportunity to express feelings, emotions and intuition without any need to explain or justify them.

BLACK HAT:

This is the most used of all the hats. The black hat is perhaps the most important hat. The black hat is the hat of caution. It is for being careful. The black hat stops us doing things that are illegal, dangerous, unprofitable, polluting and so on. It focuses on content and process. It is the past and the future.

YELLOW HAT:

Think of sunshine. Think of optimism. Under the yellow hat a thinker deliberately sets out to find whatever benefit there may be in a suggestion. Under the yellow hat, the thinker tries to see how it may be possible to put the idea into practice. It also stands for speculative-positive thinking strategies. It encompasses the positive spectrum of circumstances and of ideas. The yellow hat is also supported by reason and logic. It is for constructive thinking. Thus, it is in relation to creativity.

GREEN HAT:

The green hat is the energy hat. Think of vegetation. Think of growth. Think of new leaves and branches. The green hat is the ultimate creative hat. It is the lateral thinking of the brain. It focuses on movement instead of judgment. There is a need for provocation to encourage more alternatives. The green hat’s major emphasis is on personality and skill.

BLUE HAT:

Think of the blue sky above. Think of “overview”. The blue hat is for thinking about thinking.
(Whatever that means!) The blue hat is like the conductor of the orchestra. The conductor gets the best out of the orchestra by seeing that what should be done is done at the right time. The blue hat is like the ringmaster of a circus. The blue hat is for the management of thinking. The blue hat is for the organization of thinking. It is for process control. It gives us the focus. It provides the program design of our brain. It speaks about summaries and conclusions, control and monitoring.

After reading the summary pages, I said to myself (hope I really did), “This is a good read for my day’s drama.”

But I want to make an add to the colors of the thinking hats. May I say we also need an:

ORANGE HAT:

Think about crunchy autumn leaves
(well, we don’t have autumn in the Philippines, but there are a good fields with dried leaves) under your bare soles while you are running out in the open with friends and other people. It replenishes the spirit. The orange hat emphasizes on play. It focuses on relaxation. When the mind is set out for thinking alone – an all work without play thing, sanity would not stand for long. The orange hat also symbolizes hope that after every fall, comes the spring.

So may I then suggest that after a long day of work, stop thinking for a while. Act on impulse. Do whatever you wish to do. Say what you have to say. Speak spontaneously. (As long as you would not be hurting yourself and others.) Like when I ran away with the book without thinking about the rules. If I didn’t do so, perhaps I would end this day without a blog entry.

What do you think?
Proposed Code of Ethics
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Published: Feb.05.2008 @ 6:04 pm | Last edited: Feb.05.2008 @ 4:29 am

 PHILIPPINE GUIDANCE AND COUNSELING ASSOCIATION, INC.
Accredited Professional Organization of Professional Regulatory Commission


PROPOSED CODE OF ETHICS


PREAMBLE


The Philippine Guidance and Counseling Association, Inc. (PGCA) is an organization of helping professionals whose members are committed to the development of the well-functioning individual in a society utilizing his/her potentials to the fullest. Members of the Association are bound to uphold the dignity and worth of the individual throughout life in the following settings: educational, community, clinical, hospital, or industry

This Code of Ethics in Guidance and Counseling expresses the ethical principles and values of the Association and serves as a guide to the professional and personal conduct of all its members. It also informs the public which they serve of the standards of ethical conduct for which members are to be responsible and accountable. The Code reflects such values as integrity, competence, responsibility and an understanding of and respect for the cultural diversity of society.

Members have a responsibility to ensure that they are familiar with this Code of Ethics, understand its application to their professional and personal conduct, and strive to adhere to its principles and values. They should also be familiar with other sources of information which will assist them in making informed professional decisions. These include the laws, rules and regulations, and policies which are professionally relevant in their working environment.

Members are accountable to both the public and their peers and are therefore subject to the complaints and disciplinary procedures of the Philippine Guidance and Counseling Association. By accepting this statement of ethics, members of the Association are committing themselves to act ethically in the provision of professional services.


ETHICAL PRINCIPLES


The expectations for ethical conduct as expressed in this Code are based on the following fundamental principles:

• Respecting human rights and dignity
• Respect for the client’s right to be self-governing
• A commitment to promoting the client’s well being
• Fostering responsible caring
• Fair treatment of all clients and the provision of adequate services
• Equal opportunity to clients availing counseling services
• Ensuring the integrity of practitioner-client relationship
• Fostering the practitioner’s self-knowledge and care for self
• Enhancing the quality of professional knowledge and its application
• Responsibility to the society

 

 

CHAPTER I
PROFESSIONAL RESPONSIBILITY

1. General Responsibility. Counselors maintain a high standard of professional competence and ethical behavior thereby recognizing the need for continuing education in order to meet this responsibility.

2. Respect for Rights. Counselors respect the rights of a client and uphold the integrity of the counseling profession. They participate in only those practices which are respectful of the legal, civic, and moral rights of others, and act to safeguard the dignity and rights of their clients, students, and research participants.

3. Boundaries of Competence. Counselors limit their practices within their professional competence, educational background, and personal experience as what the laws, rules, guidelines, accreditation and credential are concerned. If the counseling needs of a client are beyond the counselor’s expertise and competence appropriate referral must be made.

4. Continuing Education. Counselors must be updated with the current trends and development in the profession through active participation in scientific and professional endeavor.

5. Research and Development. Counselors must engage in research activities for the advancement of the counseling profession. They have the responsibility to disseminate such information through presentation and publication.

6. Ethical Behavior. Counselors must uphold the values and ethical principles operating in this Code.

7. Sensitivity to Diversity. Counselors must recognize and respect client’s diversity in terms of socio-economic status.

8. Equal Opportunity. Counselors must provide equal opportunity to everyone to avail of the counseling services in various setting regardless of age, gender, socioeconomic status, civil status, religion, culture, ethnicity, disability, and sexual orientation.

9. Good Quality of Practice. Counselors must provide quality service at all times.

10. They continually monitor their effectiveness as professionals and take steps to improve when necessary.

11. Knowledge of Legislative Laws. Counselors have a responsibility to read, understand, and follow Republic Act 9258 (Guidance and Counseling Act of 2004) and its Implementing Rules and Regulations. Other mandated laws protecting the interest of clients’ rights should be known to the practicing counselors.

12. Extension of Ethical Responsibilities. Counseling services and products provided by counselors through classroom instruction, public lectures, demonstrations, publications, radio and television programs, computer technology and other media must meet the appropriate ethical standards of this Code of Ethics.

CHAPTER II
COUNSELING RELATIONSHIP


1. General Responsibility. Counselors have a primary responsibility to respect the integrity and promote the welfare of their clients. They work collaboratively with clients in creating counseling that are consisted with client abilities and needs.

2. Confidentiality. The counselor must preserve and safeguard the confidentiality of the clients except:

2.1 When disclosure is required to prevent clear and imminent danger to the client or others;
2.2 When legal requirements demand that confidential matter be revealed;

3. TO BE INCORPORATED WITH RESEARCH Children and Persons with Diminished Capacity. Counselors conduct the informed consent process with those legally appropriate to give consent when counseling, assessing, and having as research subjects’ children and/or persons with diminished capacity. These clients also give consent to such services or involvement commensurate with their capacity to do so.

4. Maintenance of Records. Counselors must maintain records in sufficient detail to track the sequence and nature of professional services rendered and consistent with any legal, regulatory, agency, or institutional requirement. They secure the safety of such records and, create, maintain, transfer, and dispose of them in a manner complaint with the requirements of confidentiality and other articles of this Code of Ethics.

5. Access to Records. Counselors must understand that clients have the right to access their counseling records. Disclosure of such information to others is possible only through the clients informed consent or when mandated by law

6. Dual Relationships. Counselors must avoid personal, intimate and / or business relationships with clients that may jeopardize this Code of Ethics

7. REFER TO CHAPTER I NUMBER 8 Respecting Diversity. Counselors actively work to understand the diverse cultural background of the clients with whom they work, and do not condone or engage in discrimination based on age, color, culture, ethnicity, disability, gender, religion, sexual orientation, marital, or socioeconomic status.

8. INCLUDE CHAPTER 4Consulting with other Professionals. Counselors may consult with other professionally competent persons about the client. However, if the identity of the client is to be revealed, it is done with the written consent of the client. Counselors choose professional consultants in a manner which will avoid placing the consultant in a conflict of interest situation.

9. Relationships with Former Clients. Counselors remain accountable for any relationships established with former clients. Those relationships could include, but are not limited to those of a friendship, social, financial, and business nature. Counselors exercise caution about entering any such relationships and take into account whether or not the issues and relational dynamics present during the counseling have been fully resolved and properly terminated.

10. REFER CHAPTER 2 NUMBER 8Sexual Intimacies. Counselors avoid any type of sexual intimacies with clients and they do not counsel persons with whom they have had a sexual relationship. Counselors do not engage in sexual intimacies with former clients within a minimum of three years after terminating the counseling the counseling relationship. This prohibition is not limited to the three year period but extends indefinitely if the client is clearly vulnerable, by reason of emotional or cognitive disorder, to exploitative influence by the counselor. Counselors, in all such circumstances, clearly bear the burden to ensure that no such exploitative influence has occurred, and to seek consultative assistance.

11. Termination of Counseling. Counselors must terminate the counseling relationships when it is deemed necessary. More specifically terminating the counseling relationships should be done when

11.1. goals of counseling have been met.
11.2. clients condition is beyond the counselors expertise.
11.3. transference or counter-transference issues are evident.

12. Computer Use. When computer applications are used as a component of counseling services, as in testing or assessment, counselors must ensure that: (a) client is capable of using the computer application; (b) the computer application is appropriate to the needs of the client; and (c) the client understands the purpose and operation of computer application. Pertinent records stored in the computer such as counseling transcription, test data and personal information data must be kept with confidentiality. In any case, computer applications do not diminish the counselor’s responsibility to act in accordance with the PGCA Code of Ethics, and in particular, to ensure adherence to the principles of confidentiality, informed consent, and safeguarding against harmful effects.

 


CHAPTER III
CONSULTING AND PRIVATE PRACTICE

1. General Responsibility. Counselors provide consultative services only in those areas in which they have demonstrated competency by virtue of their education and experience.

2. Undiminished Responsibility and Liability. Counselors who work in private practice, whether incorporated or not, must ensure that there is no diminishing of their individual professional responsibility to act in accordance with the PGCA Code of Ethics, or in their liability for any failure to do so.

3. Consultative Relationships. Counselors ensure that consultation occurs within a voluntary relationship between a counselor and a client, group, or organization, and that the goals are understood by all parties concerned.

4. Informed Consent. Counselors, who provide services for the use of third parties, acknowledge and clarify for the informed consent of clients, all obligations of such consulting relationships, including the purpose, entitlement to information, and any restrictions on confidentiality. Third parties may include public and private institutions, funding agencies, employees, and so forth.

5. Accurate Advertising. Counselors, when advertising services as private practitioners, do so in a manner that accurately and clearly informs the public of their services, areas of expertise, credentials such as licensure and accreditation in an accurate manner that is not false, misleading, deceptive, or fraudulent.

6. Respect for Privacy. Counselors limit any discussion of client information obtained from a consulting relationship to persons clearly involved with the case. Any written and oral reports must be restricted to the purposes of the consultation and, every effort is made to protect client identity and to avoid undue invasion of privacy.

7. Cooperating Agencies. Before sharing information, counselors must make efforts to ensure that these other agencies have defined policies that serves the clients interest other agencies serving the counselor’s clients that effectively protect the confidentiality of information.

8. Conflict of Interest. Counselors who engage in consultation avoid circumstances where the duality of relationships or the prior possession of information could lead to a conflict of interest.

9. Professional Fees. Professional fees are based on standards prescribed by the existing laws, ordinances, promulgations, and resolutions. Counselors consider the financial status of clients and locality in establishing fees for professional counseling services.

10. Pro Bono Service. Counselors render professional services in the community or society for which there is little or no financial return (pro bono).

 

CHAPTER IV
RELATIONSHIPS WITH OTHER PROFESSIONALS

1. General Responsibility. Counselors must maintain harmonious working relationships with their colleges and other professionals in their work setting and affiliated organizations.

2. Roles and Functions. Counselors must set the parameters and levels of their professional roles and functions.

3. Working Agreement. Professional relationships must be conducted with mutual respect and adherence the professional standard.

4. Evaluation. Counselors must be open professional review and evaluation by their employer and peer.

5. In-Service. Counselors must participate in in-service training for professional growth and development.

6. Damage Control. Counselors must alert their employers to conditions that may be potentially disruptive or damaging to the counselor’s professional responsibilities or that may limit their effectiveness.

7. Supervisory Relationships. Supervising Counselors must treat all colleagues fairly and must foster good working relationships and system of community.

8. Client Advocate. Counselors strive to reach agreement with employers as to acceptable standards of conduct that allow for changes in institutional policy conducive to the growth and development of clients.

9. Coordination. Counselors maintain proper coordination with fellow professionals in relation to counseling services and programs implemented in their workplace.

10. Networking and Linkages. Counselors establish a good system of networking and linkages with other sectors to promote public and social awareness as well as for the enhancement of the profession.

11. Professional Conduct. Counselors have a responsibility both to clients and the institution within which services are performed to maintain high standards of professional conduct.

CHAPTER V
EVALUATION, ASSESSMENT, AND INTERPRETATION


1. Test Selection. Counselors must have adequate training in the selection of psychological test and other assessment tools following:

(a) appropriateness of the test to the purpose of testing (b) reliability and validity (c) appropriateness of level of difficulty to clients (d) appropriateness of norms

2. Test Administration. Counselors must have adequate training and competence in test administration.

3. Test Data Utilization. Counselors must use assessment data by taking into account various factors and characteristics of the person must be derived from integrated profile including the battery test results
3.1 In the utilization of test data, counselors must observe the principle of confidentiality.

4. BIG ?Obsolete Tests and Outdated Test Results. Counselors do not base their assessments or recommendations or decisions on data or test results that are outdated for the current purpose.

4.1 Similarly, counselors do not base such decisions or recommendations on tests and measures that are obsolete and not useful for the current purpose.

5. Maintaining Test Security. Counselors make reasonable efforts to maintain the integrity and security of tests and other assessment techniques.

CHAPTER VI
COUNSELOR EDUCATION, TRAINING, AND SUPERVISION

1. Counselor Educators and Trainers. Counselors, educators and trainers must have the necessary qualifications and skills as are as to conduct counselor education and training programs.

2. Description of Education and Training Programs – Counselors responsible for education and training must ensure accurate description of the training goals & objectives, course content, outline, and requirements of the program.

3. Evaluation – Counselor, educator and trainor must ensure a fair, accurate and honest appraisal of students, supervises and trainees.

4. Teaching Ethics. Counselors and Practitioners must perform their functions in ethical manner and must serve as role models for professional behavior.

5. Contribution to Research. Counselors give credit to students and supervisees for their contributions to research and scholarly projects in the field of guidance and counselling.


CHAPTER VII
RESEARCH AND PUBLICATION

1. Research Responsibilities. In planning any research activity dealing with human subjects, the counselor must observe ethical principles and standards of good practice.

2. Informed Consent. All research subjects must be informed of the purpose of the study except when withholding information or providing misinformation to them is essential to the investigation. In such research, the counselor must be responsible for corrective action as possible following completion of the research.

2.1 Voluntary Participation. Participation of identified subjects in research must be on a voluntary basis.

3. Confidentiality of Information. Information gathered from research participants is confidential.

4. Reporting Accurate Results. Counselors conduct, report and make thorough discussion of research with accuracy and avoids bias and misleading results.

5. Publication. Counselor must give due credit through joint authorship, acknowledgment, footnote statements, or other appropriate means to those who have contributed significantly to the research and/or publication in accordance with such contributions. (AACD Sec. B, p 480 no. 2, 5, 6, 11, 12)

5.1 Counselors who review materials for publications must respect the confidentiality and propriety rights of those persons who submitted.

 

Reference:  http://pgcaweb.com/code.htm

Best Sellers at Php 100.00
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Published: Jan.16.2008 @ 6:04 pm

This is a delayed entry but I will post it anyway.

Last December when my family and I dropped by in Baguio for the weekend, I cannot help but drag my feet to the bookstore where books are sold cheap. You know it's the holidays and giving gifts becomes a little bit expensive. I told myself, "Oh well, this I have to give to myself."

But on the other hand, I feel a little bit guilty buying some more books when I have a dozen more on my shelf still neatly covered with plastic, unopened and of course, unread.

Time passed by so quickly that we have to drive back home. And for the nth time I shove the thought of going to that tempting store to buy some more books.

My hubby must have noticed my eyes always glancing over my shoulder to that side of the mall. He told me, "I still have a thousand, you can have it."

Without a second word, I hugged him, got the money he was waving infront of my face and ran towards the bookstore. I was almost literally salivating like a Pavlov dog upon the sight of still unopened boxes of new arrivals with red bold letters stuck on its upper side: "FOR SALE"

In less than an hour, I unpacked the books. In less than two hours, I have read most of their back covers and have picked up four books to buy -- all Best Sellers at Php 100.00 each. Then I have listed a few "Book Buys" in my pocket notebook for future reference. And here is my book list:

(I will later on buy)

1. Interpreter of Maldies
2. Tom Clancy collection (I want it hard bound)
3. Robert Ludlum novels (hard bound, too)
4. The Namesake
5. The Shopaholic Series by Sofie Kinsella
6. Poetry Collection of Walter Whittman (my poetry.net friend once told me some of my poems sound like him)

(I got hold of)

1. The Edge of Reason (the triumphant sequel to the best selling Bridget Jones' Diary by Helen Fielding)
2. The Weight of Water by Anita Shreve
3. By The Shore by Galaxy Craze
4. Back When We Were Grown-ups by Anne Tyler

After I paid the said books, I asked myself, "When will I be able to write my book review of these books?

Oh well, hope you can wait 'til I have the luxury of time.

The Devil and Miss Prym
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Published: Nov.14.2007 @ 5:21 pm

"Ah! Sweet revenge!" 

 

That was my very first utterance after flicking through the last page in Coelho's novel The Devil and Miss Prym

 

As the lines go: 

 

She had only returned to say goodbye to Berta. She was wearing the same clothes she usually wore, so that nobody there would know that, in her short visit to the city, she had become a wealthy woman. The stranger had arranged everything, signing all the papers necessary for the transfer in ownership of the gold bars, so that they could be sold and the money deposited in Miss Prym's newly opened account… 

 

…"They're going to build a fountain in my honor," Berta announced. "It's the price for my silence."… 

 

…Chantal asked what the fountain would look like. Berta had decided that it should be a sun spouting water into the mouth of a frog. She was the sun and the priest was the frog... 

 

…"And now you are finally going to do as I suggested, my girl. One thing I can tell you with absolute certainty; life can seem either very long or very short, according to how you live it." 

 

Chantal smiled, gave her a kiss, and turned her back on Viscos for the last time. The old woman was right: there was no time to lose, though she hoped that her life would be very long indeed. 

 

Sweet revenge indeed. 

 

How Miss Prym was able to get such sum amount of money through eleven gold bars courtesy of the stranger is up for you to discover. 

 

This book by Coelho is another worth the read that you cannot even afford to stop and pee because each page reveals the truth about life – with this, the fight of good and evil within a person.  

 

Let me quote from page 39: 

 

"Good and Evil have the same face; it all depends on when they cross the path of each individual human being."  

 

The Devil and Miss Prym concludes the trilogy And on the Seventh Day. The first two books were: By the River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept (which was the first book of Coelho I was able to read) and Veronika Decides to Die (which I am currently reading). Each of the three books is concerned with a week in the life of ordinary people, all of who find themselves suddenly confronted by love – By the River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept, death – Veronika decides to Die and power – The Devil and Miss Prym.  

 

Seven days. That is too long to change the course of life of any ordinary individual. We just wake up the following minute or even with a blink of an eye, everything in our life has changed. Even with the words we seem to be ordinarily saying can alter the life we so carefully worked on for years. Changes often come when we least expect it. And oftentimes, change is accompanied by challenges to test our courage and willingness to change according to Coelho; at such moment, there is no point pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not yet ready.  

 

And in Coelho's final note: 

 

"The challenge will not wait. Life does not look back. A week is more than enough time for us to decide whether or not to accept our destiny." 

 

So true. There are moments where my Good and my Evil came hand in hand, both look so much alike. And I have to decide fast. Maybe, with just a flick of my pen.  

 

Tomorrow, I shall tell you how. 

 

How about you, do you have your own story of a week of grandiose change? 

Bookworm's Pick 3: Happy Endings
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Published: Nov.13.2007 @ 5:23 pm

Don't come swooning at this one, running for a copy in the bookstore just to have a taste of those butterflies fleeing about your tummy when you were in teeny high, like the ones I used to have even with the mere sight of my crush's extra-ordinary audio flippers!

 

This one according to FHM is not like that kilig you'll probably find when a Juday-Ryan pair up is in the mix. The title is part of the literary compilation of short fiction by Luis Joaquin Katigbak, which usually tells about reinvented identities, emotional conflicts and Wednesday afternoons.

 

Argh! Tuesdays with Morrie and first Friday masses for me. Maybe with this one, as I sense it would, will make us realize that love is not all happy endings. That love has many faces. That love can either make or break us. Or even reinvent who we are. Or just yet, pursuit for happiness does not rely on happy endings but happy struggles because happiness is not a destination; it is a way of life. We may find happiness but life doesn't end there. We move on. And in moving on, we meet failures and heartaches and more of pain's other features. And so our struggle continues. Life continues.

 

Happy endings?

 

I bet my head on that if you can find me… if there is such… in this realm, of course.

 

Bookworm's Pick 2: Memories of My Melancholy Whore
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Published: Nov.09.2007 @ 2:55 pm

After reading that long narrative of Love in Time of Cholera by Gabriel Garcia Marquez, I am hoping against hope that this striking title he made out for this one is not as boring.

 

Let us see what FHM has to say:

 

It begins with the line, "The year I turned ninety, I wanted to give myself the gift of a night of wild love with an adolescent virgin."

 

Ain't that suck! Yucky as hell! But if you wish to read on, just read on…

 

FHM continues:

 

This slim volume unfolds on this premise (the quote before my interruption… Oh well, I just wanna interrupt to garnish FHM's column with my own write-up!) made by an unnamed Colombian journalist (Isn't that pathetic? Writing a piece about some character with no name, like a horse lost in the desert which has no name? pardon me for my interruption… again!) and teacher – a slightly talented man (maybe he doesn't even know how to kiss and f*!), never been married (now I understand!), never been in love (a real asshole!).

 

Oh well (this is me, talking…), everything in the parentheses are mine. Then again, my interruption. I just wanna share my piece of thought as I read through the review. As I've claimed, a touch of my madness and spontaneity.

 

We move on… promise I won't interrupt. FHM says:

 

This one is a recounting of love found at unexpected time (…sigh…) and place (…sigh…sigh…), a novel that's said to be lifted from the author's own accounts (…more sighs…). Even after an absence of ten years in the literary scene, Marquez's style never falters (oh, well…). He throws in yet another masterfully crafted parable under his name.

Bookworm's Picks
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Published: Nov.08.2007 @ 5:44 pm

Hey! I'm done and over with him!

 

As a matter of fact, ours had a closure, unlike that first love I was talking about. Ah well, on my part, that is.

 

                                                        ……………………………Silence…………………………

 

Oooopsss!!! That was a touch of my madness and spontaneity. Surely I know I wasn't talking about Dexter my past but of a character in the selection by Jeff Lindsay.

 

This book gets you closer to the way of thinking of a brutal serial killer. Like FHM puts it, this thriller in a way introduces you to the belly of these psychotic beasts flaunting their cunning, deceiving side in the open. It lets you on his slaughter sessions, his rituals, and how his evil mind works. Though the book does not only focus on this evil side but also on the frailties of a more human perspective in comparison to other psychopath tales.

 

Oh well, at least, no matter how dark the memory comes creeping in, Dexter always had that number one spot even in my list. Geeeezzzz!!!

 

Hope I can have you!
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Published: Nov.07.2007 @ 6:51 pm

 Sounds sooooo romantic!

Conceited?

Perhaps.

But don’t get me wrong. I’m not man-izing, whatsoever. I’m perfectly in love and contented with my husband and I patronize monogamy.

Hope I can have you!” is just my usual outburst if I see ........................

See who?

What am I talking about? Check it out at http://marjo-lifeinamirror.blogspot.com

Lessons from Warrior of the Light: A Manual
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Published: Oct.23.2007 @ 4:10 pm | Last edited: Oct.23.2007 @ 5:04 am

If I have finished The Pilgrimage in almost a month, I have completed Warrior of the Light in almost a week. This is not because I liked the latter more than the first but because time was extravagant with me this week. It doesn't mean however that I have lesser work this time because I assume it is doubled due to the upcoming accreditation. The reason was: There is traffic everywhere these days! And last night was a tragic night for me because the bus I loaded in waited for almost an hour last night just to pack the bus with passengers. Then after a kilometer away from the station, a police patrol ran after the vehicle for not having flashers (Duh! Whatever that means!). Everyone in the bus was restless. I was grunting like hell. I was hungry. It was almost nine in the evening and traffic is still building up. So is heat. Then a passenger was smoking insensitively like he was the only creature in that side of the planet. An old woman yelled at him and he yelled back. The nerve! Some passengers were also throwing some satirical statements that the police was just worried his finances won't suffice the upcoming Christmas season that is why he needs to make some money (Pangongotong!). Nice, eh!

 

But before my stomach get those bruises from ulcer, I opened a biscuit and started chewing like it was the most delicious meal I ever had. Then I realized, I had no water, so I stopped. I opened my book instead and read for all I care I almost finished the book. So this morning, I had only a dozen pages to read. Alas! I'm done. And so I write…

 

The best part of the book?

 

Every passage is important. It pictures the entirety of being a Warrior of the Light, fighting the good fight, searching… seizing his dreams, conquering it and living his Personal Legend as an important part of the universal history.

 

Let me count the ways:

 

1.                  A warrior of the Light knows that he has much to be grateful for.

2.                  All the world's roads lead to the heart of the Warrior.

3.                  A warrior of the Light does not rely on strength alone; he makes use of his opponent's energy, too.

4.                  He never resorts to trickery.

5.                  The Warrior sometimes fights with those he loves.

6.                  He believes that "To persevere is favorable."

7.                  He also knows that certain moments repeat themselves.

8.                 A Warrior of the Light is never predictable.

9.                  Warriors always have a certain gleam in their eyes.

10.              The Warrior does not worry that, to others, his behavior might seem quite mad.

11.               He also chooses his enemies.

12.              The moment that he begins to walk along, the Warrior of the Light recognizes the Path.

13.              The universe is going to help the Warrior.

14.              He carefully studies the position that he intends to conquer.

15.               He knows his own faults, but also knows his qualities.

16.              The Warrior of the Light knows that no one is stupid and that life teaches everyone.

17.               Every Warrior felt afraid of going into battle.

18.              The Warrior listens to the words of certain thinkers.

19.              He does not however postpone making decisions.

20.             A Warrior knows that his best teachers are the people whom he shares the battlefield.

21.              He too shares his world with the people he loves.

22.             The Warrior of the Light meditates.

23.             He knows that he must act, but he must allow room for the Universe to act too.

24.             He is also a victim of some injustice; he usually tries to be alone, in order to show his pain to others.

25.              A warrior of the Light needs love.

26.             He knows that it is impossible to live in a state of complete relaxation.

27.              He manages to balance Rigor and Mercy.

28.             He sometimes behaves like water, flowing around the obstacles he encounters.

29.             For the Warrior of the Light, there are no abstractions.

30.             He has the qualities of a rock.

31.              He however knows when the enemy is stronger.

32.             A Warrior of the Light is never indifferent to injustice.

33.             He is never cowardly.

34.             A Warrior is never in a hurry.

35.              He needs both patience and speed.

36.             A Warrior often loses heart.

37.              But he keeps his heart free of any feelings of hatred.

38.             The Warrior remembers the past.

39.             He also knows the importance of intuition.

40.             The warrior of the Light sits around a fire with his companions.

41.              The Warrior is free.

42.             To engage in any activity, the warrior needs to know what to expect, how to achieve the objective and whether or not he is capable of carrying out the proposed task.

43.             The Warrior of the Light pays attention to small things because they can severely hamper him.

44.             He though does not always have faith.

45.              But he knows that no man is an island.

46.             In the intervals between battles, the Warrior rests.

47.              The Warrior of the Light knows that everyone is afraid of everyone else.

48.             For the Warrior, there is no such thing as an impossible love.

49.             The Warrior of the Light recognizes the silence that precedes an important battle.

50.             He is a believer.

51.               He has learned that it is best to follow the light.

52.              The warrior is always trying to improve.

53.              A Warrior of the Light is reliable.

54.              He knows that there are occasional pauses in the struggle.

55.              A warrior knows that an angel and a devil are both competing for his sword hand.

56.              Whenever the Warrior draws his sword, he uses it.

57.              Sometimes Evil pursues the Warrior of the Light, and when it does, he calmly invites it into his tent.

58.             He unwittingly takes a false step and plunges into the abyss.

59.              The warrior of the Light behaves like a child.

60.             A responsible Warrior is one who has proved able to observe and to learn.

61.              A Warrior of the Light cannot always choose his battlefield.

62.             The Warrior is terrified when making important decisions.

63.             He accepts his Personal Legend completely.

64.             A Warrior never accepts what is unacceptable.

65.              The Warrior of the Light never forgets the old saying: The good little goat doesn't bleat.

66.             A sword may not last very long, but the Warrior of the Light must.

67.              A Warrior is always vigilant.

68.             He does not keep company with those who wish to harm him.

69.             At the beginning of his struggle, the Warrior says: "I have dreams."

70.             The Warrior of the Light has the sword in his hands.

71.               He never falls into the trap of the word "freedom".

72.              Yesterday's pain is the Warrior of the Light's strength.

73.              He always has a second chance in life.

74.              He is as wise as a serpent and as innocent as a dove.

75.              A Warrior of the Light does not accept gifts from his enemy.

76.              Often, warriors find their lives meaningless.

77.              He is now walking from his dream.

78.             Like the fighter, the Warrior is aware of his own immense strength; he never fights with anyone who does not deserve the honor of combat.

79.              He remembers the five rules of combat set down by Chuan Tzu – faith, companions, time, space and strategy.

80.            He rarely knows the result of a battle when the battle is over.

81.              Each Warrior of the Light contains within him the spark of God.

82.             Sometimes the Warrior feels as if he were living two lives at once.

83.             The Warrior of the Light needs time to himself.

84.             He is also wary of people who think they know the path.

85.             He knows he needs armor after he has learned how to use the sword.

86.             A Warrior trusts other people because, first and foremost, he trusts himself.

87.             He views life with tenderness and determination.

88.            With confidence, he open the door of life presented to him.

89.             A Warrior of the Light practices powerful exercise for inner growth.

90.             He also knows the power of word.

91.              The Warrior knows the value of persistence and of courage.

92.             A Warrior knows when a battle is worth fighting.

93.             He too knows how to lose.

94.             The Warrior of the light knows that when somebody wants something, the whole Universe conspires in their favor.

95.              When the Warrior takes on a commitment, he keeps his word.

96.             When he wins the battle, the Warrior celebrates.

97.              A Warrior of the Light shares with others what he knows of the path.

98.             He has learned that God uses solitude to teach us how to live with other people.

99.             He gives before he is asked.

100.         The Warrior tries to enjoy the small everyday things of life.

101.          A Warrior knows that a great dream is made up of many different things, just as the light from the sun is the sum of its millions of rays.

102.         When he is forced to perform the same task several times, the Warrior uses this tactic and transforms work into prayer.

103.         When it comes to treachery, he is implacable.

104.         A Warrior does not go into battle without knowing the limitations of his ally.

105.          A Warrior of the Light has no regrets, because regrets can kill.

106.         He uses common sense to judge not the intentions of an action but its consequences.

107.          A Warrior knows that everything a person does has enduring consequences.

108.         And he never judges someone else's suffering.

109.         So the Warrior fights the Good Fight and he helps others, even though he does not quite understand why.

110.          The Warrior of the Light concentrates on the small miracles of daily life.

111.            He knows that the most important words in all languages are the small words.

112.           A Warrior also knows that the fool who gives advice about someone else's garden is not tending his own plants.

113.           No one is entirely good or evil; that is what the Warrior thinks when he has a new opponent.

114.           A Warrior knows that the ends do not justify the means.

115.           The Warrior knows about the "waterfall effect".

116.           Then the Warrior of the Light thanks his traveling companions, takes a deep breath and continues on, laden with memories of an unforgettable journey.

 

 

And thus, all that has been mentioned has inspired me to start an e-book inspiring women of all ages to take a step in living their own Personal Legends and shed their rays for all to behold as a Warrior of the Light.

Visit my new blogsite http://marjo-lifeinamirror.blogspot.com and read on the first entry: Praise of a Woman

 

The Pilgrimage: A Review
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Published: Oct.19.2007 @ 5:12 pm

At last, after almost a month, yesterday, I was able to turn the last page of the book "The Pilgrimage". And I can't help but sigh in relief and in awe how beautiful and poetic Coelho has conveyed his message of fighting the good fight with its mysterious, seemingly magical approach.

 

The novel, despite my knowledge that it is an account of Paulo Coelho's real experience to his way to the Road of San Tiago made wonder, actually ask myself and some friends, whether everything that happened, every detail he has related were really true. Or did he just talk in mysterious ways so as to drive at his point with impact and greater influence to his readers.

 

 

"Ah!", I told myself, "Now I'm acting like the common folks who only believe after a miracle has been performed. What else is there to look for, when my very own existence is already a mystery in itself. Life thriving in every corner of this universe and beyond it is enough proof that there is someone far greater than us."

 

And the secret of Paulo's sword so he will gain possession of it is so simple. So simple that we can say, Paulo is indeed one of us for he too, was not able to realize that in time for the ritual the Tradition has performed in the castle of the Order of the Templars in Ponferrada. He was almost at the end of his journey through the mysterious road when he was able to realize the reason for all his struggles.

 

We are often like Paulo too, we exist, we are present, but we don't know why. We struggle to achieve something without knowing the right way to attain our dreams, fight the good fight and why we have set such goals. Lucky are those who do struggle and know why they do, but pity to those who don't and die without realizing the meaning of their existence and why they have to dream and achieve their dreams.

 

Let me quote:

 

"And the secret of my sword, like the secret of any conquest we make in our lives, was the simplest thing in the world: it was what I should do with the sword.

 

I had never thought in these terms. Throughout our time on the Strange Road to Santiago, the only thing I had wanted to know was where it was hidden. I had never asked myself why I wanted to find it or what I needed it for. All of my efforts had been bent on reward; I had not understood that when we want something, we have to have a clear purpose in mind for the thing that we want. The only reason for seeking a reward is to know what to do with the reward. And this was the secret of my sword."

 

If only all of us know this, too, we are more able to muster all of our strength and enthusiasm, our faith, hope and love – the kind of love that consumes, agape and live better lives. Then world will be a better place to live in to. Indeed, we don't need to walk that Road to Santiago and find our sword too like Paulo, we are pilgrims in our own lives. The way we live this life and clarity of our goals are, are the things that mattered. All rivers lead to the same sea. In God's house, there are many mansions. In life, we have a numerous paths. The path is not important. What is important is how we stride the path and we let the path walk us through.

 

 

Note:

As for the RAM exercises in the book I promise to include in my entries, I find it difficult to post. Not because I lack the time, but I want to pave respect to the Tradition and to the sacredness of the rituals. I feel incapable and unworthy to do so. Hope you understand.

 

 

To Mr. Paulo Coelho, I admire your enthusiasm, the fire of agape burning within you which you share in every word you write, ignites the same fire within us, your readers. Thank you for the inspiration. Accept too my apologies for always including in my blogs your writings. For having copied the text as it appeared on your books; this is because I am afraid that my words might not be enough to express what you mean. But there are times like this that I try to explain what I thought of about what you have said and may have explained it too simple or my insights might sometime be wrong, this is because I struggle too in my search for meaning. Either way, thank you for your understanding.


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